A Helper That Fits
Then, the LORD God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”...So the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and while he slept took one of his ribs and closed up its place with flesh. And the rib that the LORD God had taken from the man he made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
In Genesis 2, we read a more detailed account of how God created man and woman. In this account, we discover that women were created because God saw that man needed a “helper fit for him”. Women sometimes take offense at this. We don’t want to be “just a helper.” It makes it seem like women are inferior to men. Like we are assistants in the workplace who work hard behind the scenes while the boss man takes all the credit. A “helper” sounds like a slight to our gender.
But what if I told you that a “helper” is not less than the “helpee”? Do you know who else was referred to as a “helper” in the Bible? Let’s check some other places this word is used in Scripture.
Psalm 121:1-2 reads, “I lift up my eyes to the mountains-where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.” Who is being referred to as our helper in this verse? Yahweh. The One True God. Surely, it cannot be that the word “helper”means a person who is beneath the one being helped because the “Maker of heaven and earth”is most certainly not beneath us.
It’s important to note that when Adam woke from his deep sleep, he didn’t mutter, “Finally, a little help around here.” He didn’t immediately start assigning jobs for Eve to do. Rather, he rejoiced. To paraphrase, Adam declared, “At last! Someone who is like me! Someone who is made of the same flesh and the same bone. One of my own kind.”
Right before God made Eve, Adam was naming the animals. No doubt, he was noticing that every other living creature had a counterpart. A male and female cow, a male and female parrot, a male and female lion, etc. But for the human race, it was just him until God gave him the gift of a woman. A female counterpart. Merriam-webster defines a “counterpart” as “a thing that fits another perfectly”.
Just as God designed, men and women fit each other perfectly. We are not identical but we are equivalent. We were made to complement each other. The Word about women is that women
are not beneath men as their helper. Rather, God’s perfect design is that women are men’s perfect counterpart-a perfect fit to help men accomplish God’s perfect plan.
Lord, I thank You that You have created men and women so different and yet so complimentary.Your perfect design is amazing. Amen.