Meeting Anger with Gentleness


December 16


Read Proverbs 15:1

A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.



How do you typically respond when someone approaches you in anger?


“Pouring gasoline on a fire” is one expression that comes to mind when we meet anger with even more anger. It can be difficult to keep our cool when we are confronted by someone who is heated up over an issue, especially if their anger is directed at us! It feels natural to get defensive and fight back. But is that the best way to deal with the problem?


King Solomon would say no. His advice in this proverb is to respond to anger with gentleness. Why? It turns away wrath. Many times, if an angry person is met with soft words and patience instead of retaliation, it diffuses the situation.


Jesus also taught that retaliation was not the way to handle anger. In Matthew 5:9, He said, “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called the children of God.” Then, in Matthew 5:21-28, Jesus says that anyone who is angry with a brother or sister is subject to judgment. He went on to stress the importance of reconciling your differences with others and settling disputes. These passages of Scripture demonstrate the high priority that Jesus placed on restored relationships and peace between His followers.


The next time you are approached by a brother or sister in Christ who is angry, try responding with gentleness. Keep your voice calm and even. Seek to make peace.  Chances are that your peaceful reaction will disarm them and have a calming effect so you can cooperate with each other on finding a solution to the issue.


Friends, it’s easy to think of a smart retort and fire back when fired upon. But Scripture shows us another way-meeting anger with gentleness. Let’s demonstrate the Spirit’s work in our hearts by responding with gentleness, patience, and self-control.



Jesus, may the fruit of Your Holy Spirit be evident in my response to anger. Please give me the patience, gentleness, and self-control I need to glorify You. Amen.


~ Pastor Nat Crawford



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Thank you Pastor Nat for this devotional!
Amen thank you Lord!
You got that right! We do need to confront sin. How we do it is what matters.
Thank you for the devotional.
Amen 🙏
Yes I agree with the scripture
Lord Jesus, help me understand that gentleness is not weakness but inner strength, Help me to exercise self control when I am confronted by anger or resentment.
A soft answer turn away anger.
I believe the message is very clear at what you call confrontation. As Jesus truth tells us. If confronting someone do it with Love not anger.
AMEN. Thank You JESUS.
Confrontation is not bad - it's how we do it as Christians that is important - speak the truth in love.
Take the log out of your own eye before you take the spec out of someone elses....helps me catch my breath in the midst of a firey encounter.
Lorett, we all struggle with this. I shared in today's Bible teaching how I lost it with my wife because I failed to seek understanding. Oh, how wretched I can be.
Amen. Very encouraging. Thanks
I just LOVE how God shows us what we need when we need it!
Amen and amen
I can’t get over how timely this devotion is!! The hand of God!!!
This is timely as I did not demonstrate myself in a godly manner yesterday towards my 12 year son. I did not deal with his unkindness well. This is not pleasing to God and myself.
Heavenly Father, I need You Father. Help me with my anger issues and dealing with others with anger issues. Father I know You are able and I want nothing more than to please You. Give me wisdom, strength, courage, patience, and the discernment to be calm, collected, and have self control with Your help Father I will be able to accomplish this. I love You and thank You. In Your Son Jesus name I pray, Amen.
Thanks for this reminder.
Truth...Amen, by the grace and help of God.
Thank you Pastor Nat for this encouraging reminder today. I am "guilty as charged". Most times my first reaction is one of anger. It's a struggle at times, but thanks be to God, with His help, It's getting much better as I get deeper in His Word. Lord, thank You for Your patience with me in dealing with my anger issues. Please help me to "turn the other cheek" and respond with patience and gentleness. Always remembering: "a soft answer turns away, but a harsh word stars up anger". Give me wisdom and understanding in all I do and say bringing You glory and honour.
Anger comes from pride in your self confidence. Righteous anger is so rare because we cannot know the heart of the person. Only God can know the heart and motive of the word or action. I struggle when my feelings and values get stepped on and I do not allow the Holy Spirit to guide my behavior. Vengeance is mine I will repay says the Lord. Jesus help me to humble myself to you so your love instead of my anger comes out of me. Amen
Lord, thank you for your grace and mercy. Even with our sinful nature you still without your righteous anger from us. Soften our hearts that we may follow your teachings and be slow to anger and respond. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
God is good may we be blessed with patience
Bless you my brother amen