Are You Driving People to Conflict?
August 14, 2020
When coaching clients, I teach them that there are 4 general personality types: drivers, expressives, amiables, and analytics. One of the characteristics of a driver is they are to the point, and this abruptness can lead to conflict.
Conflict can be a good thing, but it can also be destructive. We experience conflict when we focus on the problems or flaws of others while ignoring our own. That’s criticism. WE experience criticism in all relationships, even within the body of Christ.
When this criticism creates conflict, James has a way to restore the relationship.
“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working” (James 5:16).
This passage is about Christians who have fallen into sin and are suffering. We don’t know for sure what sins they were struggling with regardless when we sin, we should confess and pray.
So when we tear others down, when we criticize, we need to go and confess or apologize. No one is perfect. God knows that. His grace is sufficient.
So, confess when we’ve done wrong. Forgive when we’ve been wronged, because we’ve been forgiven much. And pray for each other and for yourself.
Today, give extra grace because of the grace you’ve been given.
Text in Context: James 5
Reflect: What is James teaching about prayer? What is the value of calling back those who wander? Why are confession and forgiveness essential for believers?
Respond: How have you been critical recently? What can you do to make it right?
Prayer: Father, thank you for your mercy and grace. Help me to see others as you see me. Help me to show the same mercy and grace. Amen.