Stop the Fighting - Win the Day

Hey Kris. Thank you for writing in. And this is probably a longer conversation but we can start here.

First Corinthians 13 provides great advice for loving people. We often refer to that as the marriage passage but it’s really just loving others as Christ has loved us. We also know that God has asked us to forgive freely because he has forgiven us freely.

But God does not ask us to be a doormat in life. There are some people who continually to abuse and never take ownership for it. Those are those relationships that healthy boundaries are required. Without knowing all the details I would suggest you continue to pray about this. But then put in healthy boundaries for communication and relationship. And when those are violated then it’s OK to pull away. But it’s also OK to seek reconciliation. You ultimately have to know that that repentance from your mother may never come. But your job in the relationship Is to forgive and leave the consequences to God.

One of the key principles I’ve learned is you cannot lose what you do not have. When the relationship is dysfunctional and you put up boundaries you may lose something but the question is did you ever really have it. Feel free to write back and ask any questions. You can also email me directly at natc@backtothebible.org.

God bless!

Thank you. It's just hard at times. Good advice. Never looked at it that way. God Bless.